I'm officially "loose", y'know...
May. 14th, 2003 11:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lady_t_220My mum and the boywonder have been arguing ALL evening. They've been having a discussion about morality and infidelity. The boywonder, getting nosebleeds from the altitude on his high moral horse, firmly believes that infidelity is totally reprehensible, utterly unforgiveable and can be prevented if you have at least a modicum of self-control. (Not that he's ever been in a relationship to test this theory out, mindyou.)
My mum believes that things just happen. For better or worse, and sometimes they just can't be avoided no matter how much you think it's all a matter of telling yourself not to. Emotions run high and no matter how much the boywonder says there's always a choice in that situation, it has to be said that it doesn't always actually look like there is.
She did, after all, have a 27 year relationship with my father which only ended because he died. It had its ups and its downs and everything else that goes with that, and after all that time you develop a rather pragmatic attitude towards these things.
Her point was that temptation happens and sometimes, given the right emotional circumstances, can even help heal problems in a relationship by reminding people to appreciate what they already have.
My brother, of course, does not believe this is true and that falling into a brief sexual relationship as a form of comfort during times of hardship within a long-term relationship is a profoundly weak thing to do... morals morals blah blah blah, if you truly love your long-term partner you should either not be unfaithful or break it off before being so.
As with all issues of any complexity my mother likes throwing in shades of grey (don't forget you can be emotionally unfathful, not just physically... which one is it that you're objecting to?) and the boywonder's voice starts getting higher and higher and higher as he gets more and more pissed off, and then his face gets redder and redder and redder as his scowl grows thunderous...
Me, I'm just sitting in the corner laughing my ass off, throwing in random points to confuse the issue. Though it has to be said I side with my mum on this one. Relationships that last involve a measure of pragmatic realism, and let's face it, a lifetime is a very long time to be totally faithful in both body and mind. That pissed him off even more and he thinks we're both pretty reprehensible now. XD
Ahh the fun of family debates.
I told him never mind, at least now he's convinced I'm morally bankrupt I might get around to letting him finally see the smut that I've written.
*snickers*
My mum believes that things just happen. For better or worse, and sometimes they just can't be avoided no matter how much you think it's all a matter of telling yourself not to. Emotions run high and no matter how much the boywonder says there's always a choice in that situation, it has to be said that it doesn't always actually look like there is.
She did, after all, have a 27 year relationship with my father which only ended because he died. It had its ups and its downs and everything else that goes with that, and after all that time you develop a rather pragmatic attitude towards these things.
Her point was that temptation happens and sometimes, given the right emotional circumstances, can even help heal problems in a relationship by reminding people to appreciate what they already have.
My brother, of course, does not believe this is true and that falling into a brief sexual relationship as a form of comfort during times of hardship within a long-term relationship is a profoundly weak thing to do... morals morals blah blah blah, if you truly love your long-term partner you should either not be unfaithful or break it off before being so.
As with all issues of any complexity my mother likes throwing in shades of grey (don't forget you can be emotionally unfathful, not just physically... which one is it that you're objecting to?) and the boywonder's voice starts getting higher and higher and higher as he gets more and more pissed off, and then his face gets redder and redder and redder as his scowl grows thunderous...
Me, I'm just sitting in the corner laughing my ass off, throwing in random points to confuse the issue. Though it has to be said I side with my mum on this one. Relationships that last involve a measure of pragmatic realism, and let's face it, a lifetime is a very long time to be totally faithful in both body and mind. That pissed him off even more and he thinks we're both pretty reprehensible now. XD
Ahh the fun of family debates.
I told him never mind, at least now he's convinced I'm morally bankrupt I might get around to letting him finally see the smut that I've written.
*snickers*
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Jarath here... ^^/
You'll pardon my intrusion won't you my dear? You know me, can't resist poking my nose in where it's not wanted. ;)
Re: Jarath here... ^^/
Date: 2003-05-15 09:17 am (UTC)YOU!!!
;p
heh
Re: heh
Date: 2003-05-15 10:20 am (UTC)